Ten ways to fight your fears
Fear kills. And this life is too good to die like a chick. Whatever it is that scares you, here are 10 ways to
help you cope with your day-to-day fears and anxieties.
These tips are for people who are coping with
everyday fears.
1. Take
time out
It's impossible to think clearly when you're flooded
with fear or anxiety. The first thing to do is take time out so you can
physically calm down.
Distract yourself from the worry for 15 minutes by
walking around the block, making a cup of tea or having a bath.
2.
Breathe through panic
If you start to get a faster heartbeat or sweating
palms, the best thing is not to fight it.
Stay where you are and simply feel the panic without
trying to distract yourself. Place the palm of your hand on your stomach and
breathe slowly and deeply.
The goal is to help the mind get used to coping with
panic, which takes the fear of fear away.
3. Face
your fears
Avoiding fears only makes them scarier. Whatever
your fear, if you face it, it should start to fade. If you panic one day
getting into a lift, for example, it's best to get back into a lift the next
day.
4. Imagine
the worst
Try imagining the worst thing that can happen –
perhaps it's panicking and having a heart attack. Then try to think yourself
into having a heart attack. It's just not possible. The fear will run away the
more you chase it.
5. Look
at the evidence
It sometimes helps to challenge fearful thoughts.
For example, if you're scared of getting trapped in a lift and suffocating, ask
yourself if you have ever heard of this happening to someone. Ask yourself what
you would say to a friend who had a similar fear.
6. Don't
try to be perfect
Life is full of stresses, yet many of us feel that
our lives must be perfect. Bad days and setbacks will always happen, and it's
important to remember that life is messy.
7.
Visualise a happy place
Take a moment to close your eyes and imagine a place
of safety and calm. It could be a picture of you walking on a beautiful beach,
or snuggled up in bed with the cat next to you, or a happy memory from
childhood. Let the positive feelings soothe you until you feel more relaxed.
8. Talk
about it
Sharing fears takes away a lot of their scariness.
If you can't talk to a partner, friend or family member, call a helpline such
as the Samaritans (116 123, open 24 hours a day).
If your fears aren't going away, you can ask your GP
for help. GPs can refer people for counselling, psychotherapy or help through
an online mental health service, such as FearFighter.
9. Go
back to basics
Lots of people turn to alcohol or drugs to
self-treat anxiety, but this will only make matters worse. Simple, everyday
things like a good night's sleep, a wholesome meal and a walk are often the
best cures for anxiety.
10.
Reward yourself
Finally, give yourself a treat. When you've made that
call you've been dreading, for example, reinforce your success by treating
yourself to a massage, a country walk, a meal out, a book, a DVD, or whatever
little gift makes you happy.
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